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#LikeAGirl

Have you seen the new Always advert? It is simply brilliant – a fantastic look at the way society has been indoctrinated into thinking that girls do things in a very silly manner.
Here – take a look before I go any further.

This really ignites my fiery feminist sparkler. I’ve been thinking about this for ages now. “You punch like a man” vs. “you punch like a girl”. A positive vs. a negative. I hate having attributes or characteristics that are seen as being either male or female. Why can’t men be feel sensitive, and why can’t women be tough? And it’s generally things perceived to be feminine attributes that are plagued by being negative (“stop crying like a girl”). I watched a fantastic Ted Talk called ‘A Call to Men‘ by Tony Porter. This is an extract from it:

“I come to also look at this as this fear that we have as men, this fear that just has us paralyzed, holding us hostage to this man box. I can remember speaking to a 12-year-old boy, a football player, and I asked him, I said, “How would you feel if, in front of all the players, your coach told you you were playing like a girl?” Now I expected him to say something like, I’d be sad; I’d be mad; I’d be angry, or something like that. No, the boy said to me — the boy said to me, “It would destroy me.” And I said to myself, “God, if it would destroy him to be called a girl, what are we then teaching him about girls?”

It’s sad to think that the world’s general view of the way girls do things it lesser than that of boys or men. And still, so many people ask why Feminism is necessary. It’s because of this. And because of hundred of other reasons just like this one.

I’ve come to the conclusion that I do nothing like a girl. Because I’m a woman. And so I do things as a woman would, which is generally just my best. But as a girl, I was too embarrassed of the way that I ran to ever play a sport at school, or to ever run a race on Athletics day. I always felt like I was the proverbial awkward skinny girl who looked like a fool when she ran. So I never did it. And that’s sad, because all I was doing was running like a little girl. But I never thought it was good enough.